For HER: How to work your way through a man's heart

For HER: Working your way through a man’s heart

So ladies, you’re out on a fun night with your girlfriends and you happen to bump into your ex high school crush in a cafe. Age has been kind to this man. He retains his swagger, his good looks and he is the center of the attention Yet, he doesn’t even look your way; he has his back facing you.

You excitedly consult your girlfriends and they give you the green light. You begin to mull over a couple of things. Is it okay if I approach him first? What would the world think of me?

Remember ladies, one of the best advantages you have is the upper hand. That is just God’s way of rewarding you for all that you need to endure. Even if your antic doesn’t work out, onlookers will still adulate you for your guts. Men don’t have it that easy; people just laugh at them for their vain efforts.

And this is the 21st century. Women have fought hard for their rights, and the men are listening. Women have proposed to their boyfriends. So if you are interested in someone, take charge! Some men will not appreciate your straight forwardness, so, it’s no loss! They aren’t the ones who are going to appreciate your success in your career anyway.

Men are pleasantly surprised when women make the first moves. And they welcome it. It’s refreshing to meet a lady who is self confident. Truth be told, many men out there whine about how their girlfriends don’t have an opinion.

“What do you want to eat?”

“I’ll have whatever you’re having!”

B-O-R-I-N-G

Yet of course, you don’t want to come on too strongly when approaching a man. Walking up to a guy and telling him drinks’ on you is not a good tactic. Men have something called ego, after all. The trick to hook a man is to be subtle. Let him know you’re interested and let him do the heavy lifting.

1) Make eye contact
Exchanging flirtatious glances is a sure way to get him to approach you. Steal a look, then look away, and then look at him again to let him know you’re watching him.

Men love to take on new conquests, and they prefer to take on sure-win conquests. Hey, it’s all about their pride. When you drop hints that you are interested too, you boast his confidence level. He then walks over and introduces himself.
It seems as if they’ve made the first move, but really, you made it happen.

2) Flash that million dollar smile

There’s nothing more beautiful than a genuine smile. When you are sulking and putting on an aloof front, it only tells the men to STAY CLEAR. Yet when you wear your best smile, you appear warm and friendly to the others.

Look at every female magazine and you’ll see that most models are smiling on the cover pages. A nice smile radiates elegance and poise. It gives the guy a feeling that you’re at ease with yourself. You’re not finding fault with anything.

The only model who doesn’t smile is Victoria Beckham. And we always feel like we could stuff her in a bag and put her away.

Of course by that, we don’t mean for you to smile for an entire hour. Just make sure when you’re looking in his way, you’re smiling.

3) Breaking the ice

Supposed he came over to you and bought you a drink. You two hit it off at once, and within 5 minutes, you already know that he is a real estate agent, he is the youngest of 3 brothers and he lives alone. Your mind is now rummaging through a list of plausible topics.

While it’s true that (heterosexual) men spend a great amount of time watching sports and seeking enlightenment on the latest gadgets, you don’t have to bore yourself with topics of such. Unless you have vast knowledge on the subject matter, he isn’t going to stay interested in the conversation if you are only trying to keep up with him.

Besides, you don’t want him to see you as his “buddy”, do you?

Instead, discuss at length recent news or the latest movies he watched. Don’t breathe down his throat if he doesn’t seem to know who Lady Gaga is. Sing to him the chorus of Poker Face. He would probably go, “Oh! That’s the song!”
He will be glad he learnt something new today and he have you to thank.

4) Compliments, compliments, compliments

If you decide to make the first move and approach the man of your fantasies, remember one word, three syllabuses. Compliments. Men LOVE compliments; in fact, they thrive on it. Compliments are the best way to get him to notice you. Well, that and cleavage.

Be generous with your praises but of course, mean it. “That’s a great shirt you have on. It accentuates your build!” doesn’t exactly work on an overweight guy. And if the conversation goes well, and if you find yourself enjoying yourself, tell him he’s a great conversationalist.

When you give compliments, you exude swagger. It shows that you’re a self assured person!