For HIM: How to Approach A Woman

For HIM: How to approach a woman

So your eyes meet with the most gorgeous woman in the room and the innocent glance sets your body temperature ablaze. The attraction is fatal; the rise of Johnny Junior tells you so. Ten other horny dogs are chatting her up, but you know she’s interested in you. That smile is unmistakeable.

Just how do you approach a woman you don’t know? You have no common grounds, and you don’t know if that smile she flashed was REALLY an approving one. Perhaps she was smiling at you because you had sauce on your mouth. Or she was really smiling at the guy standing behind you.

Breathe in swagger, breathe out swagger. Self doubt isn’t going to get you anywhere. Whether you’re interested in seeing her forever or seeing her one night naked in bed, you have got to make that move. Doesn’t matter if she rejects you; you can just walk away with swagger. Who knows, she might even come back to you after she realizes what a good sport you are.

If you decide to take the plunge, here are some tips you can keep in mind.


How to Approach A Woman the Swagger Essentials way.

1) Drop the cheesy pick up lines. Case in point: “You must be a thief because you stole my heart”
Whatever happened to good old fashion basic courtesy? Imagine if someone came up to you and said you had the most beautiful eyes any mother could ask for. Naturally, you jump to high defence mode because that is typical creepy stalker behaviour.

It might work in romantic comedy movies, where the male antagonist swoons over the female character with his tongue in cheek lines. But that is just fantasy. You’re more likely to be given a snub when you open with pick up lines.

Instead, formally introduce yourself. A simple hello is your best opening line. Jerry Mcguire, anyone? A man with natural swagger doesn’t need gimmicks to make an impression!

2) Create your own circumstances

So your target is surrounded by a pack of wolves. You think it’s better if you wait it out; wait for your chance and pull her aside. The night goes on and the other beasts come out and play. You should know best that men feed on ego. Their balls get bigger when the stakes are higher. If they see a crowd forming, that’s where they will be.

Be an opportunist! Nothing impresses a lady than a man with confidence. Women are attracted to men who are natural leaders. If you can swoop right in the middle of a conversation and then lead from there on, you can be sure her eyes will be on you.
It’s your chance to show the other men who is boss.

3) Sustaining her attention on you

Now that you have gotten her attention, it is imperative that you sustain it. Women are unlike men; they have a longer attention span. They are likely to fake a smile even when they’re not interested in your topic. Of course, there is a limit to that threshold and you will do well not to cross it.

How not to make a fool out of yourself? Keep to familiar territory when conversing. Personal experiences are best topics, unless of course you intend on telling a fabricated story about how you survived the Iraq war. Personal experiences help to paint a story and they sell your personality.

“I help out at the orphanage every weekend or whenever I can. The people there, their life stories are just so inspiring”

Even if your lady is not hooked, we are.

While it is swagger-like to be opinionated, you walk a precarious line when you try to impress your lady with your opinions. It might even turn out to be a bull fight when you’re trying to defend your opinions against the other gentlemen. What started out as a pleasant evening soon became a night of political extremist talk.
You’re not going to get your lady that way.

4) Look up, not down
Sure, her plunging neckline dress leaves little for imagination. We’re all dogs; we sneak a peek whenever we can. The average hooker might find your curiosity arousing. But not our woman of dignity; you might even find yourself to be the receiver of a very tight slap.

Let us break it down for you, aye? When you’re staring at her breasts, these things happen.

3.1) You get distracted.
“Err. Sure, I think Obama has great boobs!”
3.2) You get an erection. And erections in pants are the most uncomfortable.
3.3) It has been scientifically proven that men cannot multitask. So, you try to look away but you can’t. You begin to slur your words because your speech nerves are not functioning too well.

All these don’t constitute to swagger.



5) Asking for her number

So you managed to get the lady to notice you and you even managed to squeeze a couple of laughs out of her. You kept your eyes off her boobs as we have advised, and you felt the electrifying tension. You have ironed out the competition too!

It’s time to break for the night, and of course, you want to see this lady again. If she feels the same way, she would readily provide you with the number. Yet sometimes, you need to nudge her a little into doing so. This is where perseverance comes in.

Sell yourself just a little bit more. Reflect on your ‘performance’; if you have been a funny guy, remind her of that. And well, if you have been the best looking out of all the others, kid about how you’re the best looking guy.
The ladies like a little cockiness; not a lot, just a little and that is the only reason why they say “size doesn’t matter”.

Whatever the outcome, thank her for the lovely night and see her home. Because that’s what a gentleman would do.