[/caption]Herald the new generation of mothers. Swagger moms - not to be confused with soccer moms - are a new breed of women renowned for their sharp maternal instincts and awe inspiring work ethics. They are the ones who truly have it all - a rewarding job and above all, a wonderful family. They are the anti-thesis of a traditional docile woman. Instead of relegating to mundane household chores, they relish in taking on responsibilities, be it to their children or work.
Anti family detractors often present an either/or proposition and take the glass half empty stance that one cannot possibly juggle well between both family and work life. These women defy all logic and rise to the occasion. It is definitely no breeze walk in the park; moments when you feel like you are stretched thin are the moments you just want to give up.
Some career minded women also have doubts if they are the make of a good mother. The truth of the matter is the inherent qualities that made you a successful woman in the first place are all the qualities you need to be a good mother. While there are many privileges that you might have to relinquish when you take on the role of a mother, you don’t have to sacrifice the little bits of you that define who you are.
Swagger Essentials is here to tell you how to become the best mom in the world!
Being there even when you’re not
Missing out on your kid’s important events such as his first day in school or her first stage performance due to work commitments can be a guilt trip. Indeed. We all know how difficult it
is to make time for family when you have a full time job. You can plan your days down to the last detail and all the efforts would be for naught if your ass-of-a-boss decides to live up to his name and calls for an emergency meeting.
Such is the reality for a working mom. You hurt when your child gives a disillusioned look or throws a temper. However, there are ways to make up for your nonattendance. Sit your child down the night before and talk to him about the exciting journeys of school. Take the time to pack his bag along with him and remind him where his pencils are kept. The next day, make him a lunchbox that he can enjoy at school.
It is also time to get creative. If you can’t be physically there for her big moment, take a cue from Lynette Scavo (Desperate Housewives). Have your husband or caretaker videotape, or video stream the performance so that you can enjoy it live or at a later time. So when you shower her with compliments, instead of being vague and pretentious (she can even retort “you weren’t even there”), you know exactly what was so enthralling about her performance.
Sink into your maternal instincts
Every female in the world is born innately with maternal instincts. We know this because females are generally better listeners and are more meticulous when it comes to details like
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[/caption]birthdays and anniversaries. For many of us, it was our mothers who took the time to throw us our elaborate 7 year old birthday party. Our mothers reminded us to wear clean socks every day too.
Your child, be it a boy or a girl, is likely to seek your listening ear than your husband’s when they face problems in school, in their relationships or at work. Hearken to them when they are pouring their souls out to you. This helps to build a better rapport and it strengthens the bond that the two of you share. Dish out some valuable advice and relate to them how you would deal with the problem if it happened to you, but allow them the freedom to make their own choices. This way, you groom them to become independent, thinking adults.
Take some time off your busy schedule everyday for a straight heart to heart conversation with your children. Ask about the day they had, about his girlfriend or her boss - anything under the sun. Show them that you are interested in their lives. Communication is pivotal to any strong relationship and one of the pitfalls that many mothers make is to eschew communicating altogether.
Encourage your child
Every child needs encouragement when they face a bump in their life. Be the guiding light and spur them on. Reassure them that their problems are only fleeting, and that they have the means within them to overcome them. This helps you to know what’s going on in your child’s life too. As a swagger mom, you need to be in the loop. A bad mother is only bad when she is clueless about her kids.
Be a role model
As a career woman, late nights are inescapable and drinking and entertaining clients or bosses come with the job. What kind of a statement would you be making to your kids if you came home, reeking of alcohol and cigarettes? You would be promoting a wrong message to your kids; that being intoxicated is a socially accepted norm. It certainly isn’t a beautiful sight to behold when you are railing at the top of your lungs and retching on your couch. Kids mirror the actions of their mothers, and they grow up thinking that it is okay to indulge in their vices excessively.
If you do need to head out for a couple of drinks, know your limits. Be disciplined. You are no longer in your teens without any cares in the world. You are a mother now, and while mothers should have the prerogative to have fun, you also need to think about your children. Sober yourself up before you set foot in your house. Portray a professional image as you would when you arrive at work in the office. Just because it’s your house doesn’t mean you can come home when your power suit drenched in your vomit.
Insist that your child do household chores
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[/caption]This is one point that is being overlooked in our society. In this day and age where domestic help is prevalent, many young children grow up not ever knowing how to sweep the floor – many just end up sweeping the dirt from one end to another. Not many young adults know how to whip up a simple meal; instead they stake out at fast food restaurants or call for Chinese takeout. How many of you can say that you know how to fold your own laundry?
Mothers these days are spoiling their kids. They keep their children by their side, as if the umbilical cords were never cut. As Swagger moms, if you want your kids to become successful, you need to inculcate the quality of humility. Teach your kids to learn that they need to work hard to get what they want. They will thank you in their later years when they can easily accustom to the reality of the working world and not get a culture shock of their life. We are also sure you do not want a child who is snob-in-making – someone who gets what they demands. These are the kids who would forget their roots and send you off to an aged home the first chance they get.
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